Revealed: Farrah Fawcett had secret end-of-life 11-year affair
Last updated at 1:31 AM on 30th August 2009
Their romance could never be described as fairytale. Even by the notoriously dysfunctional standards of Hollywood, it was always too troubled for that.
Farrah Fawcett and Ryan O'Neal fought and loved each other for three decades. It was a volatile and passionate affair and one that, her friends often
cautioned, would bring her no good. But in her dying days, it was O'Neal to whom Farrah turned.
He, along with their son Redmond, 24, was there at her bedside on June 25 when Farrah, who was 62, succumbed to the cancer diagnosed three years earlier. In
the final analysis, O'Neal provided every support that she needed.
However difficult their love, his dignified conduct in her dying days made it the stuff of Hollywood legend. The truth was there for all to see in the heartbreaking TV documentary Farrah's Story, wasn't it?
Treasured memories: Farrah Fawcett and Greg Lott share happy times in 1999
Not according to Greg Lott - a former American footballer who met Farrah in the Sixties when she was, he says, 'like a frisky palomino - all legs, teeth
Greg was Farrah's first love. Now, speaking exclusively to The Mail on Sunday, he claims he was also her last. He has dismissed the image of Farrah and
O'Neal's tragic rapprochement as nothing but Hollywood fantasy.
The truth, he says, is that for the last 11 years of her life, Farrah was involved in a very private romance with him. 'We were blind, crazy, in
love,' he says. 'Farrah was my best friend and my inspiration.
'We fell in love with each other all those years ago and we never really stopped loving each other. Our lives took us in very different directions but,
in the end, her heart always came home to me and Texas.'
In a series of startling revelations, Greg claims that O'Neal froze him out of Farrah's life against her will and that she referred to O'Neal as the 'Fat F*** from the beach'.
Perhaps predictably, his claims have been greeted with anger by Ryan O'Neal, whose spokesman says they are 'categorically false'.
However, Ryan's son Griffin says: 'I have to thank Greg Lott for one thing: For loving Farrah the way she deserved to be loved. Ryan was just there
for the acclaim.'
Greg says: 'I last spoke to Farrah late on the night of April 9 - two-and-a-half months
before she died. She was preparing to come home from a bout of treatment at St John's Hospital in Santa Monica.
She told me: "I'm coming home tomorrow. I love you and I will call you."'
But Greg never heard from her again.
In desperation, he flew to California, to her home in LA, but, he claims, O'Neal refused him entry. He says: 'I never got to say goodbye to Farrah.
Ryan shut me out of her life.'
Greg clearly remembers the first time he saw Farrah at Texas University where both were students. He was the star quarterback. Her dazzling looks were already winning her modelling contracts and male attention.
Farrah on holiday with Greg in Mexico, 2000
'I first set eyes on her in the garden of the house she shared with a bunch of other girls and she just blew all the others away. She was the most stunning creature I'd ever seen. She was flawless.
'I didn't chase her and I think she liked that. I saw her at a party a few weeks later and she said, "Why did you disappear on me?" I told
her I'd been busy training with the team.
'She was wearing a tight black cropped top and leopard-skin pants which looked like they'd been sprayed on. We danced all night and were inseparable
from that point onwards.'
With his muscular build, deep voice and flirtatious manner, Greg looks a decade younger than his 63 years. It is easy to see the attraction he held for
He says that he 'lost her to Hollywood' but, speaking from his rented home in the blue-collar town of Lubbock, Texas, it is clear from his circumstances that more than simple geography came between them.
One of Farrah's love-letters to Greg
'I messed up twice,' he admits. A knee injury ended his football career when he was just 21 and he turned to, 'booze, broads, brawling and
drugs'. Greg served two prison sentences for drug trafficking.
He now works as a drugs counsellor having cleaned up 22 years ago. But the change came too late to save his youthful romance with Farrah.
They split in 1970. 'She was in LA and we kept in touch but I was getting heavily involved in drugs and then came my first bust. I didn't want her
to know about it so I stopped all contact. By the time I got out of jail a year later, Farrah was with Lee Majors.'
While Greg struggled, Farrah's career was soaring. She married her Six Million Dollar Man, won a name-making role in Charlie's Angels and in 1976
became a pin-up for millions with her iconic red swimsuit poster.
In 1979, she fell in love with heart-throb Ryan O'Neal and divorced Majors three years later. Greg could never have dreamed he would get a second chance.
Farrah Fawcett with husband Ryan O'Neal in New York: He denies Lott's allegations of a secret affair
For the most part he kept track of Farrah's life through her late sister Diane, with whom he remained friendly. But occasionally Farrah would call and,
he says, 'it was like the years melted away'.
'Farrah never judged me. She knew about my problems but that made her care for me more. Sometimes, we'd talk once a month, other times years would
go by. But she was always in my heart.'
Then, in 1996 when Farrah and Ryan's romance came unstuck thanks to his volatile temper and infidelity, she called. 'We arranged to meet in Texas.
'She was doing a fundraiser for battered women and invited me to the event at a hotel. She walked into the room and the electricity was there between
Farrah invited Greg to visit her at her home in Bel Air: 'She flew me out
to Los Angeles and we fell into each other's arms.
'Farrah was always a very sensual woman. She never wore make-up at home and would shop at cheap stores like Walmart for her sweatpants. She had no airs and graces. That's what I loved about her. She looked a million dollars without doing anything.
'She looked like an angel' says her last secret love Greg Lott
'I would look at her sleeping in the early morning and she looked like an angel. I thought I was the luckiest man in the world. She told me,
"I've had the Hollywood men but you're a real man. You get me."
'She loved to cook and would make me Texan dishes like fried chicken. We didn't go out much. We'd stay home and watch movies and make love.'
The photographs and love letters Greg has been poring over since Farrah's death span the years 1996-2008 and are testimony to the strength of their
bond. In one poignant note addressed to her 'darling Greg', she writes:
'How sweet that we have been given the chance to grow up, grow wiser and I guess, older together. I'm grateful to still be a part of your life and
benefit from your eternal optimism in so many ways.'
Another, in Farrah's curvy handwriting on her personalised stationery embossed with the light-hearted heading 'Double F' reads simply: 'Forever, until the end of time.'
Greg in Farrah's Beverly Hills apartment
In a letter written on one flight back to LA, a besotted Farrah reflected on a recent clandestine meeting. 'Sitting here, missing you already more than
I can say and so I decided to write and tell you. Only guess what? No paper! So I go to the bathroom on Southwest flight 1311 and grab a paper towel.
'Not very classy I know but I know it won't matter because that's the beauty of us. No problems. I had the most wonderful time with you.
Everything was more than perfect.
'Thank you for making it so special. No stressure. Great food, great weather, great sex, great, great you!' Greg explains: 'Stressure was a
Farrah-ism. Stress and pressure; that is what she was under with her health, her child, her parents and Ryan.'
In the summer of 1999, they attended the society wedding of the daughter of Sylvia Longoria, a wealthy Houston-based designer who was a close friend of both from university days.
Greg says: 'People close to us knew we were an item but I never wanted to be Mr Farrah Fawcett so we kept it low-key. I never wanted to go to high-profile Hollywood events.'
In Texas, he says, they enjoyed something approaching normality. They were never photographed in LA and, on her request, Greg kept their relationship a secret from Farrah's son.
A young Farrah Fawcett at the height of her beauty
He explains: 'Redmond was a troubled young boy. I would give her advice on how to deal with his problems. The trouble is, he'd clean up and he'd
mess up again, but
Farrah adored him.
'The worst thing she ever said to me was when I came to see her in January. It was the last time I saw her alive and she was clearly very sick. She
said, "You know Greg, Redmond has been a big disappointment to me."'
Greg witnessed the ways in which Redmond 'disappointed' his mother first-hand.
One night in 1999, he was with Farrah when they were woken in the night by a telephone call informing her that Redmond had been arrested in Orange County on
his way to a rave party in Tijuana, Mexico.
Greg recalls: 'He was with three guys in their 30s who were on ecstasy and God knows what else. Farrah was furious. Redmond was only 14.'
In 2001, O'Neal was diagnosed with leukaemia and it was widely reported that, in supporting her former partner, Farrah and he had rekindled their
Greg bristles at the suggestion and insists that she remained faithful to him. Greg points to a letter dated February 23, 2003, written from Vienna where
Farrah was holidaying with Redmond. 'I have been thinking of you the entire time...my patient, understanding love...I adore you, I miss you, I love you.
Many of the letters are decorated with pink love hearts and petals and sealed with a red lipstick kiss.
Among Greg's treasured possessions is a brown leaf on which Farrah has scribbled a note referring to a secret holiday spent together in Mexico:
'I'm sending you a piece from Maroma for your birthday. I brought this back from our love nest there.'
The couple had holidayed in the resort of Maroma in early 2000. Greg says: 'We'd been to Mexico once before, right at the start of our relationship
at college. We went to Acapulco for Spring Break when we were madly in love.
'We went back at the start of 2000. It was this isolated hotel and Farrah said it was our honeymoon.' While they were there, the couple took
intimate Polaroid photos and Greg now believes Ryan found them just months before Farrah's death.
Greg's eyes fill with tears when he tells of the moment he learned of Farrah's cancer in November 2006. At the time they had set up a website
together to help sell her merchandise.
He pulls out a sheaf of papers with Farrah's signature giving him the rights to sell copies of the famous swimsuit poster and run her official website.
He says: 'I was so happy that day. She was in LA and I was in Texas and she called up and I thought we would talk about the website. But she was quiet
and then said, "I've been diagnosed with anal cancer." I felt like a bomb had gone off.'
Greg travelled to Los Angeles soon afterwards. 'I held her and vowed to do anything to help her. But because of the type of cancer it was, she wanted
her girlfriends around. She was embarrassed.
She told me, "I can't have you here. It's not something a man needs to see."'
Farrah travelled to Germany for a therapy which was not available in the States. During that time, Greg says, they talked twice, sometimes three times a day
on the telephone and, when that wasn't possible Farrah wrote.
She was a devout Catholic and sent Greg a rosary with the words: 'If we both say them [prayers] we might certainly see each other soon.'
On December 8, 2007, writing from her hospital bed in a clinic in Bad Wiessee, Bavaria, she admits: 'I miss you so much and sometimes the loneliness
makes me cry.
'But this is a daunting journey and one must take oneself and there is very little anyone else can do to help.'
Elsewhere she reflected: 'Sometimes we have a little wish to send an angel to someone and for me that is you. Thinking of you always and forever.'
In another, Farrah - who had been told she had not long to live - dreamed of a rendezvous in Acapulco, Mexico, where she made the 1979 film, Sunburn. She
wrote: 'Let's both stay positive and count the days until our Mexican vacation.'
That day never came and, when she returned to Los Angeles, Greg found himself shut out of her life permanently. He claims that Ryan blocked his phone calls
and denied him entry to her home when he travelled to LA to see her.
Greg will always regret that he failed to make contact with Farrah in her dying days. He says: 'For the rest of my life I will live with the guilt of
not being there for her at the end.'
Greg was left to learn of his lover's death from a man who runs a Farrah gossip website: 'He called me an hour after she died. I just sat there in
silence. I couldn't believe she had gone.'
Farrah's lavish funeral compounded his sense of grief and impotence. He explains: 'She said, "I don't want a funeral like my mother's.
All I want is to be cremated, put in an urn with mother and given to my father."'
Greg knows that there are some who will dismiss him as a bitter ex-lover, trying to cash in on Farrah's death. It is part of the reason for his speaking
out now, he says. 'I have never cashed in on Farrah. Never.
I would never have spoken out now except that some people are trying to rewrite history. What we had was very real. And I am grieving.
'All Ryan had to do was let me in to see her at Easter when she was dying.'
Last night, Ryan O'Neal's spokesman said: 'Mr Lott's accusations are categorically false,' and at his Malibu beach house O'Neal
denied even knowing who Lott was. 'I don't know the guy,' he said.
But when Lott gave interviews in America after Farrah's death, O'Neal's people dismissed him as 'a disgruntled ex-boyfriend from the
Greg said: 'They want to control the Farrah myth and that revolves around the great love story between her and Ryan. I just want to tell the truth about my relationship with her and people can make up their own minds
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