Exactly.

And to add... "quietly dating" is not something TomKat seemed to care about. 

If KAK didn't want to be seen as moving on so quickly from Chris Klein, why not keep her romance with Tom to themselves for a while longer before going public? I firmly believe it would have been possible for them to keep the news of their romance under wraps for a time if they had really wanted to. 

Instead, they paraded their relationship out on red carpets, talk shows and announced their engagement at a press conference. They *wanted* the attention, and well, they got it. I have no sympathy for TomKat regarding how the public perceives them or their relationship, since I think it's basically their own doing.

"Even if [Lois] is... gone... a thousand years and another world past... Lois is still the only one." -- Superman to Wonder Woman, ACT #761

"As much as I'm married to Superman, my heart belongs to Clark." -- Lois, Superman #154

"Under that costume you're Clark Kent -- you'll always be Clark Kent. You can't live without him... and neither can I!" -- Lois to Clark, Adventures of Superman #525