Right now, that friend of yours is in a very vulnerable position. It's likely that she's feeling very scared and alone, having dumped all her non-Scieno friends through cult-mandated disconnection and cutting herself off from all her Scieno acquaintances by leaving the cult (plus, she lost her boyfriend). She probably thinks that she has no-one to turn to and could use a little glimmer of hope. In my humblest opinion, I think you should temporarily put aside the personal hurt over being dumped and reach out to her as a FRIEND. Just let her know that you are still available to talk then leave the decision up to HER to make the next move. There's no way of knowing how she'll respond but at least you've given her the opportunity to be helped. When she's ready, she'll come. She can't come if she doesn't know that you are there for her.

I don't know anything about Scientology, but it's been my experience that situations like this are NOT over. I think the above is excellent advice. Because it's my (limited) experience that men break up and are over it. Girls break up and are going back. I really hope that's not the case here.

For example: One of my closest friends has an off again, on again relationship with a man who has beaten her in public and held her against her will away from her home to beat her at least 2 times. (I am not kidding). She breaks it off with him, and then invariably needs money for something. He gives her a wad of cash and the whole thing starts again. By the time I find out about it, it's happened a while ago.. although he hasn't hit her now in quite a while. At least not that she's told me.

This is a very seemingly smart, assertive woman, holds a good job, wonderful parent. Initially she gave me the talk about how she was done. But after two years of her "breaking up" with him, I no longer care to hear the conversation. I can't entertain it anymore, because I was more emotionally invested in it then she was. So you like it, I love it.

Being gentle and not having any commentary about your friend's prior choices is probably a safe thing to do right now. DO NOT DOG THE BOYFRIEND OUT! Even if she wants you to. Because I doubt those people are done with her yet. If they approach her with negatives about the outside world, and the outside world approaches her with negatives about them, they will undoubtedly win because they've had more time in her brain. If you dogged him out, you dogged her choice in him out, and by extension, her.

Maybe you could just hang out and do girlfriend stuff for a while until she trusts you some more. Or maybe you could let her vent, without commentary. If you seem like you are neutral and kind, and they come off emotional and ranty, you have a better chance of maintaining your friendship. And I would remember that nothing you do is responsible for whatever her ultimate decisions are. She has her own free will. So don't feel pressure or guilt to keep her out.


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